The time will come in a parent’s life when your children become adults. They will no longer need or want your advice about life even though you have lived it already. LOL. They may turn into a person you definitely do not understand or know. They will do some things that totally break your heart. They will blame you for everything wrong with them even though they have the ability to get help/change. You will be the one who has to make it right because they aren’t the problem.
STOP IT RIGHT THERE!
As parents, we need to understand that the job of parenting did not come with an instruction manual and we did what we could with the information we had at the time. Having adult children is so much harder because they have become their own person and you no longer have the ability to shape/raise them anymore.
I want you to extend yourself some grace and forgiveness.
Learn to let your adult children GO. Let them live their life, and move on to your next season. Be supportive, a listening ear, a coach, and even a friend to them but by all means, honey LIVE YOUR LIFE! This is your time to find you with no reservations. Take that class. Learn a new skill. Write that book. Take that trip. Plan your life with only you in mind.(in moderation~wink)
Our adult children are just that, ADULTS. They may say or do things that get under your skin but don’t sweat it, just pray.
Pray for God to keep them. Pray for God to reveal their hearts to themselves. Pray for God to help you forgive yourself and let go. Pray for grace for yourself.
As your children navigate adulthood remember to watch from a distance, pray in private, and extend yourself some grace. You did good! You did your best! You are forgiven.
Much love,
Black Mama
p.s If you really need some guidance download “The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children” by Stormie Omartian, it will change your life as a parent.
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