When I look in the mirror what do I see, I see strength and growth looking back at me!
Recently I was reminded of a time when I was tested in my single journey years ago. A man I knew at church had asked me out for coffee. We had a great time talking etc. It seemed as if this friendship was going into that next level. Texts every-day, phone calls making sure I was ok and all that wonderful stuff that makes you think its all good. As I began to like him A LOT, a change happened… DEAD SILENCE. Without explanation, he stopped calling, no texts, nothing. Well, being the person I am showed no feelings and kept it moving. Low and behold a few months later he’s engaged and marries another lady in the SAME CHURCH! I was internally devastated, I went through a terrible season of rejection, anger, and plain hurt.
I questioned what I did wrong and everything under the sun. It took a minute but I began to see how that situation helped me to understand how much God loves me. I didn’t fault him at all because he was just being him, I guess. Lol. I had to focus on what was the lesson for ME. Sometimes we go through things and look externally instead of internally when we are heartbroken. We need to use every opportunity in life whether good or bad as a lesson learned.
Because of that situation, I am able to navigate through my single life so much better. It showed me my weaknesses and helped me to grow. Today be encouraged if you’ve experienced loves heartache. Take note of what was taught in that situation. Forgive, forgive, forgive because bitterness will kill you. Understand that it wasn’t time and he/she definitely wasn’t the one who will truly appreciate all that you are. Grow in the midst of your pain. Grow into a more beautiful being. Grow for the one who is waiting on you to manifest.
Don’t stay stuck, GROW!
Much love,
Beautiful Black Cat
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